I interviewed Kathy from Lezzymom.com. If you have been to her blog or listened to her podcast you probably already know all of this stuff. If you haven’t heard of her before you will want to read this and then check out her blog and listen to the podcast.

When did you realize you were gay? I first realized I was gay (or at least admitted it to myself) when I was 22. I was with a man who was amazing. Any woman would have been happy to have him. And yet I wasn’t. I really had to look at why I wasn’t happy with such a generous, caring, smart, etc man. I had been denying really looking at myself for a whule. When I finally did I realized the reason I couldn’t be happy was because I was gay.

When did you come out? 1994 – I was 22.

What was that process like? The process was really fast. I first came out to one of my friends from High School when she was coming out to me and telling me that she was in a relationship with a woman. I told her I thought I was gay too. After that there were many nights talking to gay friends that I had.

How did your parents accept that news? My parents are wonderful. I never feared that they would disown me. My mom went through the usual “Was it something I did…” period. She knew something was up and kind of pushed me to tell her. There were discussions but they have been very supportive. At one point my ex and I actually lived with them for about a year while we were saving to buy a house. They come to HRC dinners and my Mom has helped out at pride a few times. They are wonderful grandparents as well.

Were you ever in a straight relationship? If so why? I was married to my Jr. High sweetheart when I was 20. The marriage lasted 9 months. We had been together on and off for 7 years before we got married. I always knew I would marry him and had no questions or doubts about getting married. After 9 months HE told me he was into men. I was not into an open marriage so I asked for the divorce. He moved away shortly after. We tried to keep in touch but after I moved in with another man I asked him to stop writing. I haven’t heard from him since. I have tried to find him through the internet. Mostly because I wanted to come out to him. I wanted him to not have any guilt about what had happen – that it was the best for both of us.

Are you married (I’m not sure which state you live in) or in a committed relationship? My partner and I have been together for 4 year.

How old are your children? I have a 6 year old from my ex. We share time. However I do not have any legal rights to her. I wasn’t able to adopt. My partner and I have a 2 year old boy. Again I am not able to adopt in AZ.

Are they adopted or biological? I hate even asking this question but I think it is important considering some couples are not allowed to adopt based on their sexuality. Both were conceived through artificial insemination with an anonymous donor.

Have they always known you are gay? Yes but I don’t know if they really know that word.

If not when did you tell them?

How did you tell them?

What was their reaction?

Have they faced any discrimination or bullying because of your sexuality? Not yet. But they are still very young. The 7 year old is in 1st grade. She just had her first kid party where invitations were sent to everyone in the class. The turnout was way better than I expected and the parents were all very nice.

How do they handle that?

What are your concerns being a lesbian and raising children? Obviously we have the same concerns every parent has – am I doing a good job? Are they eating right? Are they learning they learning enough? etc. But there are also the other questions. Do we have enough men around for our son? Are we doing enough to make sure our kids are in a safe place while they are at school and try an limit the amount of potential bullying? I would have to say that the fear of them being picked on because their parents are gay is the biggest concern.

Are your kids actively involved in GLBT issues? Too young

How long have you been podcasting and blogging? I have been blogging for six month. We are going into month 3 for the podcast.

Is this a hobby or a full time endeavor? This is a hobby.

What message do you hope to get across with your blog and podcast? My main goal with the blog is to just increase awareness. I find that most people don’t get real information. They just get minimal info from what the main stream media decides are the talking points. I’m hoping to make people think a little bit more and hopefully get information to them the mainstream media doesn’t always discuss. With the podcast I hope to empower people. Get them to realize they have a voice and can use it. Also that taking action can mean doing small things – yet still have a big impact. We have already inspired someone to set up a gay-straight alliance.

What is your favorite thing about blogging? Meeting new people and connecting in a different way. Also, I get to share my opinions and pursue a passion of mine which is politics and how it relates to the LGBT population.

What is most challenging? Finding time to do it.

Where do you see your self and your blog/podcast in the next five – ten years? I would love to continue to move forward with both. I’d like to see the blog continue to gain popularity. I would live to see the podcast move to at least weekly. If it really takes off and we get some sponsors it would be ok with me to move to a daily format.